LOSS DAILY WISDOM WORDS

Loss is "sad and happy" depending on which end of it your on and, for those we lose, and those we have lost, and those who leave us, and how much suffering they might be going through, rather mental or physically and emotionally.

Loss, in our Webster states a summation like this:  Something we lose and the harm abstained, or:  a failure to win.  2.  decrease in amount or degree.

Daily Wisdom Word Definition:  A loss, of someone we love, or a loss of something, we wish to have accomplished, each followed by varied degrees of emotion, and each set of feelings formed from the perspective in which/what we are losing.

There are two types of losses, and it is important to separate them, from a "something loss" from a 

"someone loss".

I did not feel it was necessary to start this post off with, "how do you feel when you lose someone?

I do feel it is necessary to separate the major types of losses.

We all know that losing someone we love, is very painful, and it hurts, sometimes, a great deal more than others depending on the relationship in which we are in and who we lose.  For,  no matter if it is a close friend, or a parent there is still the love in our hearts we feel, especially when this loss results from situations with "unfinished emotional business".

I know when I lost my grandmother, how much it hurt.  I also lost my father, three years ago, and it was excruciatingly painful...I also know we can't measure any loss by a yardstick or ruler.  It feels as it feels....  Both losses, hurt, and they truly hurt my heart.  There is so much one can say to you, but loss must be dealt with, on your own accord, and in your own way, and we on the other hand, when dealing with someone who has lost someone, must wait, carefully, until, that someone reaches out to us, or gives us a quiet directive, on what or how we might help.  

The only positive thing I can say, is when we lose, it does, eventually in turn, teach us how very important that person and other people we love in this lifetime, are to us. It also teaches us, that just because they are no longer in our lives any longer, they will always and forever be in our hearts, for love is preserved, and life is short.  

"We also realize that the memories, we shared with that person, are memories, we will never forget, and just like a poem is unique in its words, so is a loss, and our feelings, associated for and all the beauty the one we have lost, brought into our lives." For myself, just the thought of knowing someone has touched us emotionally and psychologically is such a personal way, is showing us, how we might do things better in our current relationships, for these relationships could change in a heartbeat's sound, and a clocks minute hand.  

Love, is part of the description of what a price-less thing, pride, and losing it to apologizing to another, is.  Are our ego's so big, we can no longer get on our knees and grovel, if we must look at it that way, if we were to know the future, and that in an hour from that time, they would no longer be with us?   I think "regret" would top that feeling any day and time in our life.

I feel some may not understand what I am about to write, but  as I will not pass judgement on you, please don't on me.  

If any of you have ever loved your dog, or your pet, you will, and if you don't, it is not up to myself or any of us to pass judgement on others.  God, is the only one with a license to do this.  I love my dog, so very much.  She has been with me, through my children growing up, and getting married, and both of them in their losses, growing up,  or myself with mine, and she seems to place a special paw print on anyone's heart she has ever wagged her tail at.  

To me, she isn't a something, she is a someone, and although losing her, is becoming more possible as she is 14 years, old, is coming near, I cannot imagine our families life without her.  Her name by the way is Bella, AKA, "See saw",  or Bella bean, and has been called other names in the past not so kind, when having a pet "accident on the carpet".  I love her with my heart, and it will hurt so much, when it is time for her to go to doggy heaven, (yes, afraid so, there is one!!).

Regardless, losing her, will hurt terribly, as she is so kind.  She is a better example for me, then I to her, sometimes!

If I were to ever lose one of my children, I am not sure, I could stay here, without them, but would, for that is what they would want, even though that kind of pain is so unimaginable.  

What, we can do, for anyone, if we are compassionate in nature, as most of us are, is feel empathy, and sympathy, regardless of who someone has experienced losing.    We can't exactly "feel their pain" but we can certainly sympathize with it, and be there to listen, and be tuned in enough to know, when to give them space, as well as be there, when they need a shoulder to lean on and a good set of ears, just to hear them, hurt.  

Sometimes, in life, we lose, something.  Depending on how much we are invested in what we lose, is the this can be very painful, and again, although we may not personally understand their depth of pain, it is not up to us to judge, but to "listen" and be there for them.  Perhaps it is the Tennis match, after getting to the Junior playoffs, or a sports game, for a team, what is the same is the pain.  Obviously, the depth, and length of that pain, has an end.  That is what is different mainly, when losing, a some-thing.  This pain will pass, in time, and this is a thing, and things, are replaceable.  People, in our life, are not.   

I will end with the loss we experience when loving someone, who is not supposed to be part of your lifetime.  One, Soul, perhaps, you've shared a deep love with, and it isn't shared back, or perhaps, the fear they face to love you as you love them, is a fear which can never be overcome.  How do we know when it is time to let go?  

We know, when it is time, to end this, when we, as well as they, or one or the other, have different "expectations" within the relationship.  We also know when it is time to let love go and them with it, when they don't treat us according to how we know we all deserve to be treated.  

Another thing to look for in a relationship that you have loved,  is what you will carry forward, as you leave them behind,  and it doesn't have to mean the love was "in vain".  When it is you doing all the giving, not just for a short period of time, (love is not to be measured), but at the very least, reciprocated, and this cannot be the case, if their commitment level is different then yours.  

I have experienced some horrific amounts of pain from not learning the first time around, when they have made a mistake with me, and repeat it again and again.  "I do know the love I carry forward, can still be beautiful, even if all of the past memories, are not."   I also feel confident we learn and grow from our mistakes, if we choose to, and this will ultimately lead us to the love we will share for the rest of our lives with another or at the very least, lessons well learned, from another, not passing the same mistakes to another.

A great perspective on losing this one person, is realizing, that the love you feel for them is love that is forever in your heart,  and still, for what you shared in it, will forever be remembered.

Love, not for a lifetime, but you did experience it, and that is worth more than a 1000 daily wisdom words, taking us to this old cliche':  It is better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all.  

As always, your comments are greatly appreciated, and any feedback you can offer as well.  Thanks so much for reading, and if you feel this might help another, please pass it along.  You may also tweet me at @samanalyize,  hashtag #loss with questions and comments!   SL

Time to play, Wisdom Wordology:   ;

Wisdogram from loss post 3/16/15   
Loss =  (L)ove (O)f  (S)omething/(S)omeone